Random thoughts about my past, present, and future, including memories of my mom and my dog, along with dad jokes and dark humor.

Very often.

My brother and I have debated for hours about the importance of saying “no.” We are Carribean and Christian; we say yes to everybody in those two spheres. Or at least we did.

He is so passionate about it that he even wants to write a book on it. Looking back, we both regret the times when we should have said “no” but didn’t. Saying “Yes” did defer our dreams. Saying “Yes” killed our hopes. Saying “no” is much easier now, and it has helped us lead a calmer and more peaceful life. We have learned to remove people from our lives who do not respect our boundaries, and this has made an enormous difference.

I wish I had the ability to persist, endure, and work through extreme adversities.

Definitely between 70 and 80 degrees with a soft breeze. Ocean breeze is preferred but any breeze is okay with me.

Build and cultivate.

A portrait of my mom’s face on my left shoulder; she was shoulder height to me, and it would be nice to have her by my side.

It was the 90s, and I was probably out with a friend, which was a rare occasion due to my strict upbringing. I couldn’t have been older than 14 years old. I cursed, and an older white man heard me. He said to me, “you are too beautiful to let those words come out your mouth.” It still bothers me to this day. I felt like he was speaking to my soul. I believed in Proverbs 18:21. He called out my cognitive dissonance at 14, It remains the best compliment I have ever received because it was never meant to flatter me.

Definitely a train.