What principles define how you live?
We’d never know what’s wrong without pain.
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What major historical events do you remember?
It was September 11, 2001. I was at work. I had just returned from New York in August. I vividly recall my actions, my living situation, and the long-distance call I had made. I was filled with anger towards racism, the Transportation Security Administration (TSA), and the skyrocketing gas prices. So much loss of life followed. Never forget.
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What have you been putting off doing? Why?
I haven’t put off anything. I’m surviving. I think that’s okay.
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I haven’t written in a long time. My mind is in survival mode, and the luxury of writing is just not there. But I assure you, once I put to words the experiences I’ve had, I hope that someone will enjoy my calamity or at least learn from it.
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Seriously.
What do you want to know?
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If you could permanently ban a word from general usage, which one would it be? Why?
I wish the N-word never existed. It doesn’t need any introduction or explanation; it’s a symbol of hatred and division. Imagine if that word were eradicated from human existence? Such an disenfranchised group of people deserves freedom from such a dark word. I would remove that word from mankind.
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When attempting to avoid a situation or person, I find myself becoming excessively engrossed in a task. For instance, I have been searching for an item I lost that is of no particular value relentlessly for two days. Upon reflection, I find that my hyperfixation on finding this thing is a means of diverting my attention from an evolving problem that seems to intensify with each attempt to contain it. Once I realized this, the agony I felt regarding the issue resumed. I began to feel helpless, tears fill the corners of my eyes. While I am uncertain if this is a common experience, I would greatly appreciate any guidance on how to gracefully redirect my focus to a long-term issue while maintaining a sense of equilibrium in my life. Perhaps prayer could also be beneficial in this regard.
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What is your all time favorite automobile?
My all-time favorite automobile? I can’t pick just one! I’m an automobile enthusiast, and I appreciate all types of cars. My dad worked at a car shop, so I have a soft spot for them. I still have a preference for manual transmissions and American muscle cars.
My first favorite car is an 80’s model TransAm with the T-tops. I want it stock with a Flowmaster muffler, black and gold, and the Firebird symbol on it. (I can’t believe I once wanted a Firebird tattoo!)
Next up is a Jeep Wrangler. I already have a sports utility vehicle, but I want one that can take the top off. I think combining muscle and utility is fun.
Yes, I know I’m going through every type of car, but every class of car has a champion. My favorite sedan is the 2025 Mercedes-Benz AMG GLE 53. I would need the sedan version with a panoramic roof because that car is the most luxurious-looking sedan I’ve ever seen.
Well, I should probably get back to work so I can start saving up for all my dream cars!
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What positive events have taken place in your life over the past year?
I feel incredibly blessed by God. While I have faced many trials, I have experienced even more victories. I don’t want to boast, only give praise to God. My career has taken off, and I have also been able to invest wisely. Despite the challenges regarding my health, I have been allowed to nurture and grow in other areas of my life.
The little wins have been wonderful, too. My dog, Kali, has made great strides in her training, even though she is four years old. She can open doors and serves as my morning alarm clock (especially during Daylight Saving Time!). She also alerts me when doors are left open. Kali is truly a blessing, and I’m grateful to see her weight picking back up. I am forever thankful for her presence in my life.
I am excited about 2025. If anyone needs to talk or get feedback on HRT, adult acne care, thoughts on therepy , or wants a non-denominational Christian to say a prayer, please inbox me. Keep me in your prayers as well.
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Share five things you’re good at.
This would typically cause me great fear to respond to, but if you can identify what you’re good at, then there is no ‘no.’ Life is about selling yourself; here it goes.
- I have a strong ability to sense subtle changes in the body and temperament of both humans and animals. I discovered this gift after my mom passed away. Life is precious, and when it comes to saving a life, I prefer to ask for forgiveness rather than permission.
- I’m quite good at organizing files and objects. Having moved a lot, it has become a skill of mine.
- I’ve learned to care for plants, and now it soothes me to nurture them.
- Speed reading. I can get to the point on contract or verbose documents quickly.
- I tend to be clumsy, and I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t poke fun at myself for it. However, I have also developed strong organizational skills that help me minimize my clumsiness. In fact, four out of my five strengths come from compensating for this flaw.
Where the light is... 